Steve was always there when I needed him. Be it as an AFSC counselor to a service member during a war or as a mentor to start a new housing organization for Co-ops, the Boulder Housing Coalition or to help Boulder Car Share get its 501c3 status. Steve was always there to listen and support the emergence of new ideas, programs and institutions. I will miss Steve because of the heartfulness he brought to applying skills that helped so many of us.

- James Harrington, Thistle Community Housing, Boulder 5/23/2007

It has taken me a great while to truely believe that Steve is not returning from an extended trip. Sadly, that wish will not come true. Having worked with Steve for 12 years, I saw how Steve made other peoples' wishes come true. Steve didn't say "just do it" he said, "you can do it." You left Steve's side a stronger person, more confident, and sure of your abilities. You knew that he was there for the long haul to support you and your dreams all the way.

I will miss you Steve, your brilliance, your amazingly strong values, your quick wit, and your unfailing willingness to fight for equality! I feel lucky, very lucky to have known you so well.

Carol Crawford

- Carol Crawford, CRC, Denver 4/3/2007

Steve's smile and warmth were greater than most people I have ever known. Always willing to help, and to take time to listen. I first met Steve when he stayed at the Cottonwood Inn, a business I owned before working in the non-profit sector. He came to do work in the San Luis Valley and we quickly became friends. When I decided to move to the non-profit sector, there were many things that I needed to know and learn and he was always willing to help me make the transition.

I truly feel a void in the world without Steve, but I do know that he is with us in spirit. I will strive to have the same sense of leadership, collabortion, kindness and compassion in my life as a tribute to him.

- Julie Mordecai, Boys & Girls Clubs of the San Luis Valley, Alamosa 3/28/2007

I first met Steve in the late 1970s at Central Regional meetings of the American Friends Service Committee, when he was on the staff in the St. Louis office. His community organizing skills were already evident, as he reported on efforts to mobilize inner city residents, largely minorities, to oppose the closing of the hospital that most effectively served their needs. Having lived and worked for more than a decade in innercity Chicago, I connected with him not only on that level, but as a baseball fan. Financial constraints that caused the closing of the St. Louis office brought a great blessing to Denver, as Steve joined the staff here. Among his many responsibilities was AFSC's effort to promote divestment from firms doing business in apartheid ruled South Africa, a cause close to my heart after six years in Tanzania working with exiles from the liberation movements of southern Africa, among them the African National Congress and the Pan-Africanist Congress of South Africa. Another painful downsizing later led Steve to resign from the staff, but even in disagreement his skill at maintaining friendships and mutual respect were abundantly evident. We are all the richer that his skills were recognized and utilized, enabling him to stay in Colorado and make the great contributions that are lifted up in the other messages on this site and the wonderful reminiscences, music and pictures shared at the memorial service. Thanks and best wishes to Cindy, their families, and his colleagues in this difficult time of transition. Ed Hawley, Denver

- Ed Hawley, , Denver 2/2/2007

My memory of Steve is truely great!

When I first met Steve, he had just become the E.D for CRC, and I was a undergraduate student in thee Human Services Dept., Nonprofit Adminisstration emphasis,at Metro State College, Denver. I volunteered to help with the 1997-98 Colorado Grants Guide. Steve was the most decent, caring, thoughtful, intellegent, insightful, amazing men that I had ever worked with. The professional, ethical, generous, patient and inclusive care that he gave to all of us, is a very personal testimony to a very special man. I remember calling Steve to talk to him about some of the most important educational decisions of my life. Like when I asked him what he thought about going on for my Master's degree. I remember him taking much time to discuss the possibilities with me and then stating; "My perception is that you will be much more empowered in your carrer as a woman and as a person if you have an advanced degree". He played a really important role in my life as a mentor. Over the years as my carrer has progressed, I have called Steve often to check in with him, and to see how he was doing. It breaks my heart to know that he has passed. However, as with all of us, the light that we sow in this life lives on, even after we are gone. So it is with Steve. The light that was just Steve, lives on in all of us.
Julie M. Boyer, MPA, Friend, Grant Funding Services,Boulder, CO

- Julie Boyer, Grant Funding Services, Lafayette, CO 2/1/2007

During a problem with benefits delivery in Colorado, we began hearing from local food pantries they were running out of food and turning people away. I asked Steve if he could facilitate a meeting of foundations to raise emergency funds, then if he could help assemble a grant review panel, then manage the grant distribution process statewide. This all happened very quickly before either of us knew what we were getting into and it became apparent this was a huge, time and labor-intensive project. Steve never asked if or how he would be compensated (although CRC eventually was compensated). He said it was just something he should be doing. He also insisted the grant review panel be inclusive. Multiply this typical Steve Graham story by about a million and we begin to get an idea of what Steve meant to all of us, but particularly to the disenfranchised. It's up to us now to continue to live out his spirit.

- Jeff Hirota, The Denver Foundation, Denver 1/30/2007

When I first came to CO I worked at Urban Peak. Steve was one of the first people I met and he made a lasting impression. Steve and Rich Male ran a staff/board retreat for this young and rapidly growing organization. They were direct (maybe even blunt) in a very effective way. I remember Steve's ability to mix and mingle and be comfortable with everyone and make sure we accomplished what was needed. He was cool and classy. Since 1991 I've been impressed. Like SO many others, I miss him already! Erin:)

- Erin Binford, Buell Foundation, Denver 1/29/2007

Thoughts of Steve Graham in Context of the Milieu of the CRC

Founded 25 + years ago by Richard Male the CRC quickly established itself for its support of Grassroots causes – taking on the underdog’s passion and seeking to turn the tables on those entities/individuals that presented barriers to social justice. The “in your face” style of Rich and Dan Loop gained the CRC a reputation as something you either embraced or you didn’t with a strong emotional reaction on either side of this equation. Whether the CRC was organizing a “green card” campaign of postcards being sent to the a top CEO of a Colorado headquarter company demanding that the company open up its workplace giving campaign to other associations besides United Way thus losing funding from this company to the CRC or spending time at a Board retreat discussing the strategy of how to open a specific banking institutions lending policies to include more low income people with loan opportunities – demanding to meet with the out-of State CEO of the institution and threatening to have a horse enter the main banks Denver location to make a “deposit” if he didn’t come to Denver to negotiate the CRC operated on the edge of the ledge. Several times the two staff of the organization went on unemployment while continuing to work as 40-hour volunteers for the CRC.

After 15 years of operating in this kind of Pigpen (from the Peanuts comic strip) manner the organization was faced with hiring a new executive director. Steve had worked for the CRC in several capacities for 4 years including putting together the Colorado Grants Guide when the search committee of the Board that included me, Yvonne Baca and Walter Rosenberry the third hired him as our second executive director. Steve brought a new vision to the CRC one that still valued the Grassroots causes/organizations that are the heart/soul of who the CRC serves, but a vision of creating an organization that provided the highest quality of services to all nonprofits.

Steve laid out his vision in a clear manner – keep the CRC relevant to the ever-changing needs of the nonprofit community throughout the entire State; develop/expand services/products that generated earned income to help sustain the organization; develop and empower the highest quality team of staff/volunteers possible in support of the CRC mission.

The impact on our State of Steve’s vision is evidenced by the gathering today, the responses of people from throughout the State and beyond on the CRC web site in tribute to what Steve meant to us, the staff and volunteers continuing to focus on the mission of the organization while grieving our loss and the outpouring of generous gifts both monetary and emotional support through stepping up to help the CRC in so many ways.

Richard Male could not be here today because he is in Ethiopia doing consulting work, but he shared with me his thoughts regarding Steve and his legacy by saying that “Steve radiated concern and passion for others and brought competence and professionalism that raises the bar for nonprofit leaders to shoot for. He is one of the most ethical and value driven people I have known and was always asking the questions: Are we doing it for the right reasons. Will it help poor people? Will it really make a difference? He is a person that is not interested in the tinsel of life but the substance of people and change. He will be sorely missed not only in the nonprofit world in Colorado but in the human world that we are striving to change.” The love we felt for Steve was shared by him to all of us and when the wonderful 25th Anniversary party for the CRC was held last year this was never so clear as when the staff of the CRC brought Steve onto the stage at the Botanical Garden meeting room and surprised him by presenting him with a very special award for his leadership. The Rotary International has as its international theme for this Rotary year – lead the way – I can think of no one I have ever known who dedicated their life to doing just that.

- David E. Henninger, ,  1/29/2007

Reflections on Steve presented at his memorial.
What a good man. What a contributor –

Steve and I had the chance to cover many miles together for he was frequently my driver, both literally and figuratively! I was often recovering from some type of injury or surgery and Steve would offer me a ride in his old Subaru and we’d be off driving hundreds of miles to attend one of the many planning meetings for Rural Philanthropy Days, an event that CRC helped to invent. For the uninitiated, Rural Philanthropy Days is held twice each year, involves many of Colorado’s grantmakers and rural nonprofits and resulted in millions of dollars being invested in Colorado’s rural communities.

Sometimes people in rural communities are reserved about city folks. Not so with Steve – for people would light up to greet an old friend, a trusted companion, able leader and mentor of many. And Steve was not a pushover – for he demanded much of people as he believed their efforts defined the strength of their respective communities.

I saw the same in the urban centers, as Steve was just at home in the center of a city as he was in the smallest of communities. And the same sentiment was expressed by people who ran the city nonprofits – deep regard and trust.

During the many miles we spent together we’d talk about politics, history, religion, philosophy, nonprofits and his love of travel and Cindy’s adventures. He was so smart he made my head hurt – so he’d ease up on me and talk about baseball or his love of hiking.

He was so much on top of things – I’d often email him a question and he’d have an eloquent response completed and back to me almost before I’d sent the email. And speaking of driving, he could also drive people, including me, to higher purpose for he was always taking the high road! His integrity, sense of social justice, commitment to the environment all stand out – and Steve was unwilling to compromise – wow, could he be stubborn! Perhaps his favorite Martin Luther King, Jr. quote provides some insight – “This is no time to engage in the luxury of cooling off or to take the tranquilizing drug of gradualism. Now is the time to make the real promises of democracy.”

My wife and I just returned from a trip to Guatemala and I picked up the film from that trip and there were photos from last fall at the Southeast Colorado Rural Philanthropy Days in La Junta or as Steve would pronounce it La Ju’nta. And one of the photos was of Steve driving a Cadillac and I had to get a picture of him behind the wheel for it was uncharacteristic – he was not a person of excess. CRC began to rent cars from Enterprise for the long journeys and the Enterprise people wanted Steve to drive a Caddy for the price of a compact and Steve insisted that I take a ride.

What a good man, what a loss:

For Cindy – the love they shared was stupendous – you could see it in their eyes;

For the scores of people, who with Steve’s quiet and deliberate encouragement pursue their dreams;

For the nonprofit community and its belief that it is essential to the character of Colorado;

For the hundreds of people who enjoyed his intellect, respected his integrity and relished his wit and wisdom and even his stubbornness;

For the staff and board at CRC, who with Steve’s leadership, became a force of competency and courage;

To the entire state and every county and community – for Steve, through CRC, helped people to seize possibilities. Steve was heralded everywhere (just read the memorial comments on the CRC website) for he was trusted, committed to the success of people and their organizations and he had the charm to build strong connections with all. Steve was a student of Chinese history and philosophy. He would have agreed with Confucius, who said,
"Clever talk and a pretentious manner are seldom compatible with
the benevolent."
Yes, I miss my driver – but am blessed to have covered so many miles with him!


And for me, I will miss our discussion and debates, his email quips, long drives and deep friendship. He was a driver and everyone needs a driver – someone who drives them to a higher purpose. His guiding light was his father who Steve admired for his courage, morality and sense of community. Steve, you did right by your father and now it is time for us to do right by you.

On behalf of my wife, Maureen, my boss, Sue Anschutz-Rodgers, my colleague, Michelle Sturm at the Anschutz Family Foundation, my colleagues in the foundation community and the scores of nonprofit leaders, our hearts goes out to all who share in this tragic loss. We can repay Steve for his leadership by doing our best benevolent work. And Steve loved a good laugh, friends and parties – he wouldn’t want us to dwell upon the sadness, but to commit the possibilities.

Jeff Pryor

- Jeff Pryor, Anschutz Family Foundation,  1/22/2007

After the truly moving and deserving tribute to Steve yesterday I simply wanted to share a quote that sums up my own feelings about Steve over the time that I got to know him.

"Help me,Lord, to fulfill the promise that is in each of us, and so to conduct ourselves that genertions hence, it will be true to say of us: the world is better because, for a brief space, they lived in it."

Thanks for sharing your space.

- Jeff Rubin, Alliance for Holistic Aging, Lakewood 1/21/2007

I have a note in my calendar this month to call Steve so that I can come to CRC and have lunch with him. It’s devastating for so many reasons that I will not reach him. It feels like I have lost a family member – an older brother/father – who gave me so much support and encouragement. Recent reflections on our loss of Steve have conjured up three powerful reasons why I loved Steve and will miss him dearly.

1. Steve never lost sight of the fact that nonprofit organizations, foundations and other social structures are merely means to an end. The end is their mission, the communities and the passionate people behind them.

2. Steve fearlessly defended people who were working toward social change to make this world a better place. When his anger was provoked it could make me and others uncomfortable, yet at the same time comforted that someone was willing to speak up.

3. Steve cared about the people who were working with him as much as (and sometimes more than) the work that was getting done. I worked for him at CRC from 1999-2004. He gave good advice on work – but what was so unique is how he cared about the human needs of his team. He was a role model for how to lead a group and demand perfection of spirit/intent as opposed to the actual work.

The snow that blew into Denver when Steve died will remain on the ground for months and continues to pile up from subsequent storms. Ice, snow and cold temperatures fit the mood created from Steve’s passing. Yet in the spring, our dry Colorado soil will soak up this frigid precipitation and be much more fertile, green and lively as a result. I have no doubt that Steve’s incredible spirit will melt into our communities and make them even stronger. This vibrancy will remain alive if we all remember to speak up for what we know is right, dare to go against “convention” and demand perfection of purpose from ourselves, families, neighbors and leaders. It will be hard without him. I will mourn this loss along with so many others for a long time.

- Jane Marsh, Craig Hospital, Denver, CO 1/21/2007

I just came home from Steve's memorial service, and it finally hit me that I won't see him again.

What more can I say than was said so eloquently at the service? But I will share a memory. In the eight years I've lived in Colorado, I must have worked on a dozen projects with Steve.

I remember riding with Steve in the infamous Subaru, new in my job at the brand new Daniels Fund, on the way to a community conversation somewhere in the state...CRC was helping us put those together. During that ride, Steve taught me so much about how private foundations work and, of course, how they could work better. That conversation never really ended...we just took it up the next time we saw each other. The lessons I learned from Steve help me to improve my work every day.

Steve always held people to their highest possible level of dedication. He somehow knew what you were capable of, and by his mere presence -- in a meeting, planning a project, in a conversation -- held you to that. Yet he made everyone feel valued, no matter what you were able to give.

Today's service revealed so many sides of Steve that I'd never known...and that is perhaps the most wonderful thing about him. A thousand people, a thousand different memories. A thousand tears. And a thousand hearts called to devote ourselves with even more dedication to the work for which Steve lived.

Thank you to Cindy, the rest of Steve's family, and the staff of CRC for making it possible for the community to share our sadness at Steve's passing.

- Rebecca Arno, The Denver Foundation , Denver 1/20/2007

I was Steve's first neighbor in Denver when he arrived here in an aging VW bus with a girl friend and three dogs. The last eighteen years or so a small group of us guys would get together on a regular basis to play penny ante poker, cook a meal, and socialize. It was a gathering we all took pleasure in and placed great value on the connection we had with one another. I will miss him personally more for that, all the while recognizing the immense contribution he made to this community.

- Ron McKinney, , Denver 1/20/2007

To Cindy, to Steve's family and to the staff at CRC, Rob and I are profoundly sorry for the depth and enormity of your loss.

During meetings and various conversations with Steve, I often found myself wishing I could look at the world through his lens. He cut right to the gist of an issue that might have seemed muddy to me. He saw many sides of an issue if doing so was just or helpful, but knuckled down if right was clear from wrong. He understood instinctively the importance of fighting for a level playing field, but I loved his acknowledgement and appreciation for comic turns or ironies along the way.

I read once about a middle school student who described integrity as 'doing what you think is right, even when no one is watching.' In Steve's case, I might add, 'or in the face of any obstacle.'

Steve's respect and affection for people struck me again and again. He admired small goups beating the odds or overcoming a power struggle of sorts. Recently, he seemed especially delighted in the development of his staff and the board leadership at CRC.

Steve left an indelible impression on our lives and we are deeply and forever grateful.

- Peggy Driscoll, CRC Board Member, Longmont 1/20/2007

Steve Graham touched my heart, my mind and my soul. He knew that we truly belong to each other, all of us, on every continent and from every ideological base. He built more bridges between people, organizations and communities than almost anyone I have known in my entire life.

His journey was his "talk," and his "talk" made the journey mean something for thousands.

Will those of us who care deeply about civil society and social justice miss him? Broadly and deeply so, but we are such better human beings for having known him and having been touched by all he did so courageously.

For his wife, Cindy, his beloved family and close friends, his CRC staff and so many, many colleagues through the years -- my sympathy, and may we carry his passion for human rights forward.

- Sharon Heinlen, Master of Nonprofit Management Program, Denver, CO 1/19/2007

Steve was just about the best source - and fan - a reporter could ever hope to find.
He made himself available to explain and educate, always spoke frankly, plainly, articulately, thoughtfully. And he never worried about how his words might appear in print. He spoke with conviction about everything.
There have been few stories I’ve written about the nonprofit sector in the last few years that I didn’t discuss first with Steve. He often gave me the twist or the “outrage factor” the story needed. Or he’d provide balance, expose the double-standard in some common practice, or offer a counter-intuitive angle.
When I wrote anything about an issue involving nonprofits, I would get a lengthy email the following day or week, filled with analysis, commentary, and gratitude. When I wrote a long piece that seemingly had nothing to do with nonprofits, there would also be an email waiting with a subject line such as: “Your article this weekend.” He always had plenty to say to remind me why I got into this business.
Steve also had a talent for reading a business story I wrote and seeing some aspect that could be tied to philanthropy and the nonprofit world. I remember when I was asked to take on the ski industry beat two years ago and lamented that I would have less time to focus on the nonprofit beat I’d been trying to nurture. He immediately saw how the two areas overlapped and we arranged a meeting to discuss story ideas. Fortunately, I still have a list of various topics hatched during many conversations with Steve. But I will miss his wisdom and guidance, his mastery of the substantive sound bite. I will miss the emails. Fortunately, I never deleted the others.

- Joanne Kelley, The Rocky Mountain News, Denver 1/18/2007

When the Foundation stared in 2000, Steve showed up at my doorstep wondering what I was and what mess was I trying to create. I think it was out of pure curiosity. That encounter turned into a very significant relationship, Steve becoming a counselor, mentor and good friend to me.

I greatly appreciate the time I had with him. He will be missed; however I feel that I have an important mission of justice, equality and a commitment to meaningful work to carry on in his name.

- Paul Major, Telluride Foundation, Telluride 1/18/2007

Steve was a mentor to me. He exemplified generosity, patience, and humility. I met him eight or nine years ago when he facilitated a board retreat for an organization I was working for. It was amazing how he could get a group of people with very different opinions all moving in the same direction. Steve guided me through a couple of tough times ~ he was always willing to share his knowledge and take the time to find solutions to problems. I saw less of him once I moved out of the Denver Metro area, but I recently was lucky enough to reconnect with him on planning Mountain Rural Philanthropy Days. Steve, you will be missed!

- Kim Lennox Sharkey, The Heuga Center for MS, Edwards 1/18/2007

At our board meeting today, the Gunnison Area Community Foundation remembered Steve's total dedication, his kindness, his inclusiveness, his high ethical standards, and his unwavering devotion to enabling access by everyone to the resources they need to do their good work. Steve set standards for the entire nonprofit sector.

- Pam Montgomery, Gunnison Area Community Foundation, Gunnison 1/17/2007

I met Steve several years ago while he was working as a consultant to one of the non-profit agencies that I served on as a board member. Steve was the ultimate champion and advocate for the those less fortunate and believed that everyone should have equal opportunity...no exceptions. He invested himself in work without any expectations of payback. He was a mentor to many.

- Cec Mascarenas, , Denver 1/17/2007

Steve was a man of deep values. He valued the little guy, the heartfelt efforts of those who usually go unnoticed. He was a risk taker, yet profoundly practical. He worked so hard to keep philanthropists, non-profits and all of us grounded in our core values. Steve directly impacted countless lives and the expanding circles will continue to touch many more. I look back and celebrate the opportunity to share the path with him.

Steve, thank you for the time you devoted to me, Stephanie, and the work at La Puente. Thank you for giving your heart and soul to the people of Colorado. You worked so hard. My deepest pain comes when I think you don’t get to enjoy many years of playing hard with your family and friends. We celebrate your life, heart and countless accomplishments.

- Lance Cheslock and Stephanie Frykholm, La Puente Home, Alamosa 1/17/2007

I met Steve in 1963 when we were freshmen at Carleton College. His death stuns me and saddens me immensely. For two years we roomed together and over the four years shared the 'Carleton experience.' He was very different from me. I knew nothing about the world and he seemed to know everything. Steve had distinguished himself in High School by being awarded a history prize at graduation from New Trier. He had a problem with that because it was sponsored by the DAR (Daughters of the American Revolution). The story goes that he went to the podium, denounced the DAR, and declined to accept the award. Pure Steve.

We liked each other but were an odd pair because I was a prep school version of shallow Hal and my list of accomplishments in 1963 included being 14th in a class of 28 prep school boys, liking to read, and knowing how to mix drinks. Steve had begun to live a principled life. I soaked up what he knew and began to understand his anger about Vietnam and many other issues. I learned he had heroes in his family who fought for social justice. I mixed a few drinks for him now and then. We drank cheap wine on double dates.

We spent hours together in the dorm, at one point reading Catch 22 aloud to each other, falling out of our beds laughing. After our sophomore year we hopped in his car and went to Aspen to look for summer jobs. We camped in Maroon Bells, drank from the stream and walked the dusty red clay streets of Aspen and of course did not find work. We drove back and it was a great road trip in every way but why we had gone.
Steve’s life was a model of purposefulness and good works. He knew who he was when he was 18. His life is properly humbling to us- as the testimonials here attest. He found no just cause to be unworthy of his attention, but he was never full of himself. (Well, maybe once, for a week or two, when he dated a striking six-foot tall senior woman as a freshman - a beautiful thing to behold when they walked then campus together!)

My ideal of a beautiful life would be to live by high ethical standards and to work actively against the social and political forces that degrade and dehumanize people. Further, there has to be in a great person a sense of being attached to the earth and to its communities. Steve had all of these qualities, and it is remarkable that in a life of such serious intent that he lived so joyfully and so unselfishly. He was a funny, generous, and kind man.
A month or two ago I sent him an email asking him to come to the Carleton Class of 1967 reunion. I had not corresponded with Steve for a few years but I began to think more about our closeness 40 years ago, so I asked him if he was planning to attend in June of 07. He said he had not planned it, but he would go if I was going, and he hoped our wives could meet. His wife is a psychotherapist as I am and he thought it would all be fun and interesting. Now I will have to go without him and it will be difficult. I am so sorry to lose Steve who lived such a good, honorable and loving life.

- Charles High, , Milwaukee 1/17/2007

If we learn about life by relating to others, then Steve was a master of life. His open heart radiated a peaceful light that will continue to shine for many. I am sorry for your loss. With deepest condolences.

- Susie Davis, The Youth Foundation, Edwards 1/16/2007

"You don't get to choose how you're going to die, only how you are going to live". This great line by Joan Baez speaks to me of Steve.

He chose to live a life of integrity, compassion and social justice. He has been a role model, a friend, a wise advisor and a political ally.

Like many of you, I met Steve through nonprofit work. We served on the
Governor's Commission on National Service together and I liked him the first minute I met him. He was open, authentic, visionary and just made so much sense.

My sympathies to Cindy, his family and all his colleagues. I am so sorry that I will be out of town for the service, but his memory will linger on in the good work that is done in his name.

- Josie Heath, The Community Foundation serving Boulder County, Boulder 1/16/2007

What I remember most about Steve is that he would always be willing to help in anyway he could. Thank you Steve for making Denver as well as the world a better place.

- Michael Carr, , Denver 1/15/2007

Steve's life was a daily example of living one's principals and beliefs. He set an example for me to be a better listener, respectful of varying viewpoints, and that change requires exceptional patience. He lead by example, empowering and challenging the staff and board of CRC to continue to create the finest non-profit service organization in Colorado. His friendship, character and encouragement will be sorely missed. By continuing to draw on the memory of his life-example, Steve's legacy will continue.

- Terry Matthews, Friend & Board Member CRC, Denver 1/15/2007

Steve was a good friend and trusted colleague. His compassion, his wisdom, his commitment to the service of others contributed to his impressive leadership. Steve was a man for others. Sally and I send our deepest sympathy and prayers to Cindy and the family.

- Jack Alexander, Helen K. and Arthur E. Johnson Foundatiion, Denver 1/15/2007

I knew Steve from back in St. Louis briefly, then from AFSC peace work here in Denver. Of course, his work with non-profits is deeply appreciated. My favorite personal memory is attending the Rockies Opening Day game year before last with Steve, at which we talked WAY too much about his beloved, happless Cubs!
Will miss him so, his impact will live on.

- Dennis Kennedy, Mount Saint Vincent Home, Denver 1/15/2007

I met Steve nearly 10 years ago doing mentor work for Carol Crawford...like everyone else who has talked about him, he was a source of advice, but more importantly, a hero to me. He was a man who believed in community service and he made such a difference. Steve will always be an example of what I will strive to become.

- Michael Donegan, American Lung Association of Colorado, Greenwood Village 1/15/2007

To the members of Steve's family: I'm sure I don't need to tell you that Steve was a very special person...bigger than life. But I do want you to know how appreciated he was in this world and how very much he will be missed by many, many people. I had one meeting with Steve, and his words and thoughts were so compelling that when I heard of his death, I was immediately reduced to tears. His impact was immediate. I was so looking forward to many future encounters with him and CRC. I wish you love and support over the next few years as you go through this difficult adjustment. He is truly irreplacable.

- Janet Mordecai, Daniel and Janet Mordecai Foundation, Denver 1/14/2007

I met Steve when I took my first grant writing class presented by CRC in 1994. In the thirteen years since, he became my trusted friend and mentor. Over the years I learned so much from Steve about nonprofits, about belief in a better community and about working hard for that belief. He was one of the truly non-judgmental persons I have ever met. Everyone was equal in his eyes. He believed in a just society and walked the talk his entire life. With his help, guidance and mentoring I learned about the nonprofit community and eventually was chair of the CRC board for three years. Working by his side I witnessed his vision, compassion, and dedication to the work we do. Hardly a week or two went by when we didn't talk about rural Colorado, how to collaborate with entire communities or about how we were. Over the past few weeks something would come up and I would think that I need to call Steve, he would know how to handle this...I can't imagine who I'm going to call now. I am who I am today because of Steve Graham.
The nonprofit community has lost more than a mentor and a leader, we have lost a true friend.
Cindy, thank you for sharing him with us and we mourn beside you.

- Susan Lander, Music in the Mountains, Durango, CO 1/14/2007

Steve and I worked side by side for nearly 7 years with The American Friends Service Committee in St. Louis and then in Denver. He was a wonderful colleague and personal friend through times of exciting, frantic and heavy change. Steve brought an inspiring balance of head and heart to everyone he worked with. Our work life wove in and out of contact in curious ways, first with AFSC, from St Louis and Denver, and then on to CRC where I worked, then served on the Board for 6 years prior to Steve's hire.
Those decades also brought the inevitable familiarity with personal life milestones. Steve played with all three of my kids who are now 34, 32 and 24 years old.
Steve personally baked a wedding cake for the occasion of my marriage -- his special, The Queen of Sheba Torte.
Steve and I helped each other pack literally dozens of moving boxes over the years.
Steve has left a happy, visionary fingeprint on my spirit for which I am grateful.

- Terry Galpin-Plattner, Organizational Options , Denver 1/13/2007

Steve was a kindred spirit. Seldom did we not have a compelling conversation about traveling, backpacking, baseball, public policy, and so much more. I considered it uncanny when an acquaintance of ours was totally serious when he said he truly thought we were brothers. To me that was a compliment. Thank you Brother Steve for all you did to grow our community.

- Ben Levek, Denver Dept. of Human Services, Denver 1/13/2007

Dear CRC Friends,

All of us dedicated to rural Colorado owe Steve our heartfelt thanks. His commitment to Rural Philanthropy Days brought was instrumental in connecting the important--but often struggling--institutions of rural Colorado with the key funders vital to underwriting services and important.

But I also owe Steve a debt of gratitude on a more personal level.

Seven years ago, while I was President of Rocky Mountain Farmers Union, I was struggling to gather an accurate and honest assessment from our membership of the organizations programs and services. I decided to conduct a series of “focus groups” in which an outside facilitator would work with groups of our members to gather their honest opinions about all aspects of the organization and its leadership.

Steve agreed to serve as the outside facilitator, and to prepare an overall report for our board. Steve traveled with me throughout Colorado to hold meetings in Alamosa, Delta, Yuma and elsewhere. At each of theses sessions, I opened the meeting with an explanation of the purpose, and then stepped outside to let Steve conduct an open, frank discussion with the participants.

Steve’s leadership, insight, and professionalism were extremely valuable to the organization.

But what I valued most of all from that experience was the windshield time spent with Steve. Those long evenings on the road gave us an opportunity to share our thoughts about faith, family, politics, and even sports. Woven through every conversation was Steve’s compassion, and his commitment to empower people throughout Colorado. Today I feel blessed to have had those few hours alone with Steve. Those of you who worked with him each day were certainly blessed to have had a deeper appreciation of his gentle spirit.

- Dave Carter, National Bison Association, Westminster 1/13/2007

Steve was a one-of-a-kind Denver institution and we will miss him profoundly. One of his great strengths was that he was absolutely fearless and deeply committed to fighting the good fight and taking principled stands on the right side of issues. His fearless willingness to stand with sometimes unpopular groups or strategies as they fought against established powers in the community was definitely unique among people of his stature. Too often as we rise in our organizations and become more established in our careers, we become compromised and worried about our reputation and our likeability among those with money and those with power--but Steve avoided taking this easy and popular path.

I recall in the fiery days of SOS8 tenant organizing when Steve received call after call from city officials with demands to reign in his community organizers and the angry tenants they were working with. Steve would have none of it. He stood with his staff, he stood with young and idealistic students who were passionately trying to change Denver, he stood with the desparate tenants of low-income housing. His stand, taken by someone of real institutional power, gave all of us more hope and strength to continue our stands--and ultimately the law and city was changed on this issue and many others. He stood with organizations like El Centro Humanitario, and the Campaign for Responsible Development which worked to bring living wage jobs to Denver development projects, long before these organizations were well known or popular.

Throughout all the years I knew Steve, he was true to his principles, he was dependable, he was fearless. He always had faith in people organizing in dramatic and even unpopular ways, he supported people in their street-level activism, and he was an institutional anchor that we could all rely on when so many other institutional powers were more skeptical, cautious, or conservative in their approach to community action.

I feel so honored and lucky to have worked with him, and my heart goes out to his family for this great loss.

- Tony Robinson, University of Colorado, Denver/HSC, Denver 1/13/2007

I met Steve as a fellow member of the Community Shares of Colorado board in 1990. I was always inspired by his vision and dedication to the many worthwhile, but unsung causes. I was probably the least prototypical board member due to my alliance with a conservative non-profit, but Steve always made me feel extremely comfortable and part of the gang. We share the same birthday, so I will think of him
fondly as I feel the good fortune to be able to celebrate another year. Peace.

- Anne Taylor, Porter Hospital, Denver 1/13/2007

I remember clearly the first time I met Steve. He'd just moved to Colorado. I was organizing a coalition against hunger, and he came to a meeting. His warmth, sense of humor, intelligence, keen grasp of social issues, were quickly evident. Over the next decade, when I needed support for an issue, I'd call Steve. He never seemed too busy to write a letter, make a phone call, come to a meeting, even lug a sound system to the state capitol. The last time I saw Steve and Cindy was at the movies. His nephew was there too. And I remember thinking at the time how lucky he was to have such a wonderful uncle. Steve was a generous spirit. He gave so much of himself and will be missed and remembered by many.

- Anna Hancock, Friend, Denver 1/12/2007

We were in Paris when we heard the shocking news that Steve had died suddenly. It was only 15 months since we had been in Paris with Steve and Cindy and their good friends Ben and Bronwen. We all have fond memories of Steve's love of the food, wine and all of Paris. We were also fortunate to have been with Steve and Cindy in New York for Christo and Jean Claude's GATES project in Central Park. Steve found one of the all time best hotel deals and took us to see Quentin Marselis at the oldest jazz club in New York. Steve always seemed to know the best things to do.
For the last two years Steve has been a star chef of our dinner group - best Coq au Vin we have ever had.
Steve was an extraordinary man, full of affection, humor, goodwill, integrity and creative insight. All of what he created and accomplished can help to sustain, inspire and educate us adding joy and depth to our lives. Steve shared his passion with us for Cindy, his family, CRC, social justice and life.
We will cherish the memories of shared meals, ideas and trips together. We will always hold Steve high in our hearts. He was a very special friend.

- Pam Durr and Bill Burford, Friend, Denver 1/12/2007

Although our politics were a world apart Steve was a dear friend.

My fondest memory of him was our two weeks in Nicaragua and the God awful time we spent in Dallas, Tx., desperate to book a flight back home after knocking around in the jungle.

I have nothing but warm memories of Steve.

His passing leaves an empty space in my heart as I'm sure he has for the many people he touched.

Although it won't take away the pain, I extend my deepest condolence to his family, to his friends and especially to Cindy.

- Kenneth Hamblin, Retired, Castle Rock 1/12/2007

Steve’s death is one of great sadness—not only personally, but in terms of the work and what he stood for and what he knew. Steve inspired great trust and so little can be achieved without trust. Steve seemed to understand and be able to work with all generations; I think it was a part of his compassion and his humanity. And I have to say I find this very rare these days. There is so much brittleness in people’s persona and approach these days, so much the tendency to take the expedient way and/or solution, rather than a more encompassing route. It’s like solutions come out of soundbytes rather than deliberative, researched consideration.
Steve listened, really listened. And then questioned. And then suggested. And then moved forward.

Steve believed, he really believed. And he believed with compassion, as you do. Which, I guess, is one of the things that really set him apart. Because so many of those who believe, who are idealists, do so without compassion. And that doesn’t get us very far. As you know.

Colorado and the non-profit sector will be different without Steve. An amazing individual, a friend, a person you trusted.

- Marianne Fearn, A Theater Group, Silverton 1/12/2007

I will miss Steve so much...I had just seen him at our November fundraiser at Comedy Works. This was a great example of how supportive he was...he took the time to support our cause. I was just getting ready to get in touch with him again, to tap into his wisdom about next steps with our new nonprofit. He has been there from the start, in assisting with our beginning 2 years ago. He looked over our 501 (c)(3) application, and with his help we received it in the record time of 45 days. Seeing him when I did I always was able to garner strength and encouragement. I miss him already.

- Steve Dobo, Colorado Youth for a Change, Denver 1/11/2007

If even a fraction of us lived our beliefs as consistently and with as much passion as Steve did, the world would be a far better place.

I worked for him as a trainer, and with him as a consultant to CRC, and knew him as well through the many conversations I had with others that included the line, "I'll bet we can get Steve Graham to help with that." We always could. He always would.

I used to urge him to take on yet another task in addition to all he did--to become a more frequent spokesperson for the nonprofit sector. He wrote articles and spoke when something moved him, but I bugged him occasionally about a more formal role. My mistake--there could have been no role other than the life he lived daily that more consistently brought attention and real help to the human needs to which he gave his all.

- Sharon Sherman, GBSM, Denver 1/11/2007

Not only has Colorado lost a stellar leader but the best friend Colorado nonprofits ever had. Steve, I'll miss our chats at Philanthropy Days when no one came to my table, and your taking my photograph when I least expected it! But most of all I'll miss your experience, good sense, and dedication. Good-bye my friend.

- Jennie Miller, Energy Outreach Colorado, Denver 1/11/2007

Steve you brought about an action that changed our lives, to give birth to what is now called SOS 8 Colorado. We say thank you
for your insight and vision to our needs.
Steve, you were an individual that could change the direction of a stubborn individual who that he knew enough to easily take a leadership role and run with it. Steve in his patience, helped our organization adapt to achieve success.
Steve ran an even keeled ship - never too much up or down - just straight and narrow. What a leader for me and many others whom he came in contact with.

He is sorrowfully missed in our lives, but leaves a strong organization to carry on with the dreams he had.

Thank you Steve for the opportunity to work side by side with you.

- Blue Eagle, President SOS 8 Colorado, Save Our Section 8 Colorado, Denver 1/11/2007

I appreciated Steve's sense of equality and justice. He helped me better understand issues of power when it came to coalition building. I am grateful for the generosity he extended me and will always remember his good humor and grace.

- Judith Martinez, Colorado Foundation for Families and Children, Denver 1/11/2007

Steve Graham was an impressive leader who touched the lives of many. His words of wisdom were invaluable. I learned a great deal from him about the practice of nonprofit management. I always enjoyed our philosophical conversations.

He not only gave me an opportunity to participate as a Board member with a phenomenal organization, but he opened the doors of CRC to my students at the Graduate School of Public Affairs at the University of Colorado at Denver and Health Sciences Center through the provision of internships, advanced seminar project opportunties and classroom partnerships.

He will be deeply missed, but his presence will always remain!

- Jennifer Wade - Berg, CRC Board Member & University of Colorado at Denver and Health Sciences Center, Aurora 1/11/2007

It is hard to think of a more important person to the nonprofit community of Colorado. He has touched so many organizations and was a part of any conversation or effort that related to strengthening the sector. He was a true champion. It is hard to imagine all of the projects, ideas and conversations that won’t happen now because Steve has left us. Imagine if he had left us even sooner … so many organizations, so many projects, so many efforts would not have even begun.

I am so glad that Steve seemed to have such a good year this past year - some great vacations and trips with Cindy and a really successful 25th Anniversary celebration for CRC. That was a very special evening and was done with such grace and precision. And it was so special that the staff surprised Steve with recognition of his incredible contribution to the organization and to Colorado’s nonprofit community. Steve clearly wasn’t in this work for the recognition. He was willing to do the hard work, the strategizing and the convening to make things happen. It is hard to believe that he is no longer here with us. I am so grateful to have known him, to have laughed with him and argued with him and celebrated accomplishments with him.

Because he was such a strong force and voice, I think his memory and spirit will continue to be a vital force in our work. He truly embodies the expression, “May your memory be for a blessing.”

- Michelle Sturm, Anschutz Family Foundation, Denver 1/10/2007

Steve helped me with the formation of the AlterMed Research Foundation. He asked discerning questions that made a difference. He delivered great value through a class he taught compared to the price I paid. Steve was always there to answer questions and made sure I got connected with the person I needed; he was reachable. I have a lot of respect for Steve because of his knowledge, analytical ability, and willingness to deliver his best and enable others. I also have a lot of respect for crc for it is an organization that delivers true value that matters, is there to help other nonprofits succeed and for that I am truly grateful.

- Kerri Diamant, AlterMed Research Foundation , Ft. Collins 1/10/2007

Steve always made himself available for me to tap his expertise. As recently as a few days before his passing he followed up to help with my transition to a new position and organization. What a huge loss to the world of non-profits and our community. He will be missed terribly.

- Jim Goddard, 9Health Fair, Denver 1/10/2007

Above all, Steve Graham put the passion in "compassion." Steve was a mentor to me, as he was to so many of you. He was a true friend who was always generous with his time and his ideas.

I was at home on vacation during the week following the announcement of his death. During that week, all I could think about was the loss of a good friend. It wasn't until I returned to my office that I truly realized the magnitude of the loss that our nonprofit community has suffered.

Steve, we all miss you more than you could ever know – and we’re sorry that we’re making such a big deal of your passing (certainly something that would have made you uncomfortable).

- Charley Shimanski, Colorado Nonprofit Association, Denver, CO 1/10/2007

Steve was one of the most humble, accessible and generous people in a state filled to the brim with such types. As the depth of his loss is felt in the months and years ahead, I know he will be watching over us, providing bits of inspiration...hoping that we live our lives with the same grace and gratitude that he exhibited each and every day.

- Johanna Garton, Governor's Commission on Community Service, Denver, CO 1/10/2007

Steve was assigned to me to find a mentor at the end of the CRC management training program seven years ago. He not only found the perfect fit for me, but also established a relationship of good listening, always always remembering me with a kind greeting, and supporting me and DAVA. I suspect he maintained the same steady kindness towards everyone he knew in the non-profit community. He is a great example to all of us still.

- Susan Jenson, Downtown Aurora Visual Arts, aurora 1/10/2007

When our RPD steering committee formed, we had an incredibly large group. As co-chair, I was concerned about the size and our ability to accomplish the tasks at hand. Steve was unconcerned and embraced everyone’s enthusiasm. From that experience, I learned from Steve the value of consensus building and not to quash genuine enthusiasm just because something appeared too large to manage. What a tremendous loss for his family and the nonprofit community.

- LaDonna Gunn, , formerly of Canon City 1/10/2007

Steve was a Mensch. He was a true public servant, a rare and beautiful being. The nonprofit community has lost a pillar who gave so much, so graciously for so many years.

- Daniel Wallach, , Saint John, Kansas 1/9/2007

Well, Steve, they say that you should count your life by friends not years. You did a great job of being a friend.

- Robin, Creative funding Resources, Grand Junctio 1/9/2007

Steve and I often spoke about our common Quaker roots and experiences in the Philadelphia area. He understands Quakers, and actually my first and strongest impression of Steve is that he sincerely adheres to that Quaker objective of "living in truth." Unassuming, resilient and effective, Steve was always committed to those around him and those in need. He had a generosity of spirit that will be missed by his many, many friends and especially his colleagues. Thank you, Steve, for the wonderful friendship and your invaluable assistance on many of our ventures.

- Tom Kaesemeyer, Gates Family Foundation, Denver 1/9/2007

What a stunning loss for the nonprofit community in Colorado.

We will be forever grateful for the huge help Steve was to Children's House, a small nonprofit preschool that had weathered several moves and dreamed of having a permanent home of its own. We were clueless about how to run a capital campaign, but Steve drew us a road map, connected us with many wonderful people, and generally held us by the hand throughout our entire project. We truly could not have done it without Steve.

Most importantly, Steve was a joy to work with and a very genuine human being. We were privileged to have known him.

- Sherri Weil, Children's House Preschool, Boulder, CO 1/9/2007

My heart is saddened. I was fortunate enough to meet and work with Steve on the Southwest Rural Philanthropy Days in Telluride. His insights and knowledge were invaluable to our committee. He always made me feel at ease, as though I could ask any question without fear of embarrasment. The conversations we had over dinner, in the gondola, at the conference itself, certainly shaped the way I live my life today.
Thank you Steve.
You will be missed.

- Kim Goodrich, , Crested Butte, CO 1/9/2007

I got to know Steve through last summer's Rural Philanthropy Days event in SW Colorado. Steve was great at helping our steering committee stay on track and shared many insights which allowed us to have a great event.

Steve took me to lunch one day after a Rural Philanthropy Days steering committee meeting. I got to know him over BBQ sandwiches. He was nice enough to share some professional advise with me. As a young nonprofit professional, this was invaluable. And then he paid for lunch!

Steve will definitely be missed here in SW Colorado.

- Tim Walsworth, United Way of Southwest Colorado, Durango, CO 1/9/2007

I only met Steve once. He was kind and encouraging, offering what help he could. He was what we all could be.

- kathy, TSNH, Trinidad CO 1/9/2007

Steve was always available when you needed him. That's hard to say about very many people. He Actively served on the Denver Urban Economic Development Corporation board. When informed of his death, all former board colleagues reacted with disbelief. You will be missed friend.

- Pat Duran, Denver Enterprise Center, Denver 1/9/2007

I first met Steve in 1999 through The Gill Foundation. I was struck by his dedication to equal opportunity for all people regardless of race, ethnicity, class or sexual orientation. Never backing away from a good cause, Steve took the courage to stand among people who did not stand with him and worked diligently to ensure that the core values of social justice, equity and integrity were infused in everything that he did. Steve will be missed by the many that stand in the shadows of his vast accomplishments. Colorado is a more just society due to his efforts. Thank you Steve.

- Christiano Sosa, The Denver Foundation, Denver 1/9/2007

I feel very fortunate to have known Steve Graham. He was such a positive person and was such an advocate for the non-profit and also for the rural community. It was a pleasure for me to work with him during our Rural Philanthropy Days planning meetings and to see his passion for community. I will always remember his great smile and his positive outlook. I will miss him greatly.

- Paula Medina, SLV Victim-Offender Reconciliation Program, Alamosa 1/9/2007

Steve and I met many years ago when he was with American Friends Service Committee and I with Loretto Heights College. His values were so clear --- he walked his talk.

In recent years our paths have crossed at different events and I was always enriched with our meetings. The city, state, world, has lost the physical presence of a human being who taught without using words. His spirit is with us all. Some people teach so much in a few years!

- Lydia M. Peña, S.L., Regis University, Denver 1/9/2007

When Terry Matthews, a "fellow" CRC Board member, called my home and I found her name on the caller ID I didn't want to call her back because I just knew why she was calling. In terms of the impact of the news of Steve's passing it was second only to death of my father 3 years ago. It is hard to fully express what my feelings at that moment were except to say that projectile tears poured out before I knew what hit me.

Reading through all of the submissions everyone has taken the time to share it is clear that Steve touched people as few of us are ever touched. When Steve was hired as the executive director of the CRC he was following not only an organizational "founder", but a rather legendary person, Richard Male. Not only did Steve take on this challenge, but he "improved on the product". I mean this in the total sense - staff team building, Board building, organizational capacity, all of the "buzz words" used in the organizational development literature/rhetoric. He did all of this with warmth, intelligence, a strong sense of conviction and a clear set of values that never waivered.

For all of us who knew Steve, admired him, respected him and loved him his voice will continue to be heard and listened to as long as each of us lives. He is not replacable - all we can do is continue to be led by his light/passion as we go on.

My heart goes out to Cindy, Steve's family, and to the large community of friends, people, organizations, causes Steve's passing leaves behind.

- David Henninger, CRC Board Member, Bayaud Industries, Inc., Denver 1/9/2007

I still cannot believe Steve is gone. I have worked with him on so many different projects – with the CRC, the Family Resource Center Association, fundraising discussions, non-profit consulting, social justice initiatives, and as a conversation partner at boring fundraisers (did I say that?)

Steve was a role model for integrity. He stood his ground on justice and equality. He was well-informed on so many levels. I could talk with him about local Colorado issues as well as global politics. If I was encountering an organizational problem, I could call him for sagely advice. If I needed a referral for a service, he knew who to recommend. I referred countless consulting clients to Steve and CRC.

He always had a smile on his face and a kind, caring word for everyone. He introduced me to people whose friendships I strongly value. I laughed at the times he played hooky with Bill Michaels to go to the baseball games. When Bill called me to inform me of Steve’s death, I was in denial. It did not seem real. Only later was I able to admit the depth of our loss in the non-profit world. Goodbye Steve, we will miss you but will never forget you!

- Karen Ashmore, Lambi Fund of Haiti, Broomfield 1/9/2007

I can add little to what others have said so eloquently. I never met anyone who could speak more passionately on a topic and yet not be polarizing. He had a disarming way about him that was contagious. Steve left a mark on countless lives (and organizations) and will be greatly missed.

- Tom Currigan, Kaiser Permanente, Denver 1/9/2007

I knew Steve from the CRC Nonprofit Leadership Development Program, CRC regional trainings, and the past two Rural Philanthropy Days in Southwest Colorado. He was one of the bests mentors I ever met and he was so passionate about improving the quality of life for Coloradoans through strengthening the nonprofits working to serve them. I was so priviledged to have known him and to have benefitted from his advice and council. I will miss him terribly but know that CRC will carry forward his wonderful legacy.

- Paulette Church, Durango Adult Education Center, Durango 1/9/2007

Several years ago I met Steve through phone referrals from CRC and the agency I worked for. While serving on the Governor's Commission on National and Community Service I met Steve in person. He had great knowledge about human and social services in Colorado and terrific leadership skills. He was willing to share and help develop those skills in directors of not for profit agencies. He also willingly shared his expertise and knowledge with other Commissioners working on Americorps proposals and agencies seeking Americorps members.

When the Bright Mountain Foundation(BMF) was established our paths crossed again through Philanthropy Days statewide. We also had several dicsussions about Italy where he and Cindy had spent time and my husband and I planned to visit.
Because my son was establishing a judo club and wanted it to be a not for profit agency, I called Steve to assist the Judo club through the 501C3 process, which he did. I told my son that Steve had great expertise in the field, that he had an "all business personality" and that he was not afraid to express an opinon. After speaking and contracting with Steve for the 501C3 process my son said Steve had a terrific personality, that they had a great time talking and laughing as well as wonderful conversations.

When BMF expanded its board membership Steve was selected as a member. His sincere service, knowledge of Colorado not for profit agencies and constant willingness to help in whatever way he and his staff could has been greatly appreciated.

Many foundation directors continually have asked me "How did you ever get Steve Graham to serve on the BMF Board". My answer was that "We asked him and he said yes".

As a friend he was an honest and sincere individual, one that could always be counted on. He will be greatly missed and cannot realy be replaced.

His presence, laughter and thouhtfulness and his serious consideration of teamwork and knowledge will be remembered by all at BMF, the agencies we have funded and especially by me.

- Irene Lopez Wessell, Bright Mountain Foundation, Boulder, CO 1/8/2007

I loved Steve's smile, and he gave great hugs. He was smart, he was kind -- he was also a crafty devil, when need be, in service to the values of social justice he held so dear. He spoke his mind and wasn't afraid to say or do something that was unpopular, if he felt it was the right thing to say or do. I didn't always agree with him, but that was OK too.

I loved sitting at the table, eating and drinking good food and good wine, and talking about travel with he and Cindy -- something my husband David and I loved as much as they did. Oh, Steve, you left us too soon. I send love to you and Cindy.

- Christine Soto, , Denver CO 1/8/2007

When I recieved the news about Steve's passing it did not register. I kept talking about someone else thinking I heard the name, Dee not Steve. How could it have been Steve Graham? He and Cindy and a lot of family and friends of the Bright Mountain Foundation and I had just been at a holiday party on Dec. 9th. Steve was looking healthy again and so happy that Cindy was home for a while. My heart sank when the realization it was Steve who died became clear.

I first met Steve when we served on the Governor's Commission for National and Community Service in the mid-1990's. I was so pleased to meet the new Director of CRC as I had graduated from the Grassroots Leadership Program in 1992. This Commission awarded and had oversite of the Colorado AmeriCorps projects.

We met again when I was a co-chairperson of Philanthropy Days on the Western Slope in Glenwood Springs in 1998-99. I have recently been working with Steve and CRC on the 2007 Philanthropy Days event.

However, my closest relationship to Steve was as a Trustee of the Bright Mountain Foundation. We always sat next to each other at the semi-annual grant review meetings and, while we did not agree 100% all of the time, we respected each other's opinions and made wise decisions on awards to non-profit organizations all over Colorado.

Filling the shoes of Steve Graham on the Board of The Bright Mountain Foundation is going to be next to impossible.

Rest in Peace old friend.

- Bernadette Julich, Bright Mountain Foundation Trustee - Western Slope, Glenwood Springs, CO 1/8/2007

My thoughts and prayers for Cindy and your family. The tragic loss of this gentle leader will reverberate through the Colorado non-profit and social justice communities for a long time to come. Like Steve, I've been around Denver/Boulder for many years, wearing various hats, so I can't specifically say when we first met. I imagine it was through AFSC. Most recently, in my role with Needmor, Steve invited me to speak at trainings to offer the grantmaker perspective. He created a uniquely welcoming and collaborative enviroment amongst new and seasoned non-profit leaders and grantmakers. I will be among the many who shall miss him.

- Kathy Partridge, Interfaith Funders (formerly with the Needmor Fund), Longmont, CO 1/8/2007

I had just started in the NP arena as a ED and really did not know what I was doing. I was especially challenged by personnel issues and had a staff that constantly complained about each other. I called CRC in total desperation. Steve was the only staff person available. As I cried uncontrollably on the phone to a man I had never met, Steve helped me calm down and gave me direction that I will never forget. He told me to, in my mind, put my entire staff in front of me and look for those individuals who were really stirring it up. It was like a light bulb went off and my personnel issues suddenly became manageable. About a year later, I went through CRC's Leadership program and I finally had the opportunity to meet Steve. He remembered me...which to me was somewhat embarassinging considering I was hysterical when I orginally met him. I have used what he gave me on a regular basis and have passed it onto other managers and colleagues. I thank Steve for his warmth and kindness - it made all the difference.

- Jennifer Walker, The Women's Crisis and Family Outreach Center, Castle Rock 1/8/2007

I will always remember the dedicated attention, time and wise advice Steve gave me when nobody had ever heard of us in the very early days of starting up our nonprofit. He made me feel welcome to the "family of nonprofits."

- Carlo Kriekels, YESS Institute, Denver 1/8/2007

I was introduced to Steve Graham through a mutual friend he has worked with for many years. I had been ill most of 2006 and was reaching out to Steve to do some networking and see what his best advice was for me based on my experience. Although I didn't have the privilege of meeting Steve we did exchange phone messages in Dec. 2006, but were unable to meet face-to-face at that time and planned to get together towards the middle to end of Dec. On 12/22/06 I received an email from a colleague regarding Steve's passing. To the very end of his life on earth he reached out to those he could help and even though I never heard his words of wisdom I can sense how special he was. He will be truly missed.

- Eugene Strauber, , Centennial 1/7/2007

I learned of Steve's death from our mutual friend Leslie, and was shocked--like so many others. I knew Steve from the early 90's, when he was putting together the first Colorado Grants Guide, and remain grateful for the time he took to shepherd me through the philanthropic maze and interest he took in all aspects of our work. The brightness of his eyes, his sister's work earlier with homeless persons in Portland, the incredible gifts he shared with Denver Urban Ministries, his kindness to all. Peace.

- Kris Moore, Family Bridge, Portland, Oregon 1/7/2007

I am enjoying reading others' memories of Steve and learning more about this special person. With my own work in the nonprofit arena, my path crossed Steve's every so often. What I like to remember about him was his sincere enthusiasm in connecting with people -- and in connecting people with opportunities to use their talents. Steve was always accessible, always validating -- a leader who was ever-present with all who knew him.

- Judy Gordon, , Denver 1/7/2007

Steve's sudden death reminds of all of the fragility of life. He was simply, a very good man. He loved and honored his wife, Cindy; cherished his family and friends; mentored and respected his colleagues and was devoted to bringing the work of so many in the nonprofit sector to the very people we serve.

His heart had a limitless capacity for making room for everyone he met. If you saw him daily, weekly or even every few years his hug made you feel as though he just saw you yesterday. We all lost a best friend. Steve's legacy now rests with each and everyone of us. May we continue to embody his values and remind ourselves of the work yet to be done.

My heart goes out to Cindy. May your quiet moments be filled with all of your feelings and know that Sam and I hold you in our prayers.

Cherie Kirschbaum

- Cherie Kirschbaum, City Projects, Denver 1/6/2007

I can't even recall when I first met Steve; it seems like ever since I've worked in the nonprofit sector, I've know him and of him. Any time a question about "best practices" or how to do things right came up, so did Steve's name. Not only did I respect Steve's integrity, knowledge, leadership style and service, I was tremendously fond of him as a person. His ready smile, easy going manner and passion for his work, family and community were infectious. We have lost a great man, a great leader, and a great friend. My heartfelt condolences go out to his wife, his extended family, his staff and anyone who knew him...he was a guy worth knowing.

- AnneMarie Kemp, Greenlee Family Foundation, Boulder 1/6/2007

Ahh Steve, you left us too soon. On that last day you were in a good mood, happy that Cindy was coming home, hopeful that the airport would reopen for her flight, and pleased to have time off to be together with her and your friends. You led a good authentic life where you made the most of your many talents and you acknowledged and did your best to manage your flaws. You lived your life well--the rest of us can only hope to follow your example.

What will I miss about you? There are so many things…

--Your ability to really see, accept and like people for who they are. You also remembered their names and stories. We would tease you that you knew everyone in Colorado.

--Your knowledge of all the cities and small towns in the state. I’d name a place, you’d look up and I could tell that you saw the town in your mind – complete with how many traffic lights they had and if they had a good place to stay or eat. You could also comment on which of the routes to the town were best in the current season/weather. It was amazing.

--Your trust and confidence in us--very few bosses as so secure and open that they can really empower their staff to get the job done. Your door was open if we needed advice or to vent but you let us make the decisions and implement the programs. You will be impossible to replace.

--Your thoughtfulness. The articles you clipped for us because you knew we’d be interested. The trays of bagels and snacks for no particular reason – just that you knew we’d devour them! The lovely thank you notes left on our desks just to let us know you knew what we were up to and appreciated it. This list could go on and on.

Steve, it was an honor to know you, a privilege to work with you, and my life is forever enriched because of you. I thank you for being you. Namasté.

- TC Werner, Community Resource Center, Denver 1/6/2007

Steve Graham helped found Community Shares of Colorado along with several other visionary people. Without his guidance and contribution, it would been much more of a struggle to make it. Getting Community Shares into the realm of workplace philanthropy was not easy and it took people with Steve's ability to make it happen.

On a personal note, Steve welcomed me into the nonprofit sector three years ago. One of the first people I met was Steve. As it turned out we worked together on several community projects. As a result, I saw learned first hand how Steve moved in the community, what his ideals were, how respected he was, and how committed he was to activism and improving the health of the community. It meant a great deal to me when he came up to me after the 20th Anniversary dinner for Community Shares earlier this year and said "Jesse, you are absolutley the right person for this job!" It made my week.

I will miss not being able to learn from Steve as I make my way through life. We all will.

- Jesse Wolff, Community Shares of Colorado, Denver 1/5/2007

I first met Steve in 1996, shortly after I joined The Denver Foundation. At the time, Steve had no hair due to his cancer treatments. In that first meeting, we discussed everything from poverty in Denver to his experiences with Chou En Lai in China. Steve's passion for social justice was contagious. Steve was a role model and mentor for me. I will miss him dearly.

- David Miller, The Denver Foundation , Denver 1/5/2007

I first worked with Steve on the 2003 Mountain Rural Philanthropy Days. When we met I was a very green non-profit director. Steve and Jeff Pryor's confidence in me those early years made all the difference in the world to me... all the difference in the world. In addition, Steve was a really, really nice guy with a big heart and full of passion. I will miss him!

- Beth Reilly, Eagle Care Medical Clinic, Edwards 1/5/2007

Steve's life is an example of how one amazing person can tremendously impact so many individuals and communities. He had the rare ability to listen, analyze and critically comment without offending. This enabled him to value and incorporate suggestions from others while completing progressive work.

On a personal note, Steve recruited me to the CRC Board when I was clerking, having recently returned to Colorado fresh from law school and very wet behind the ears. I was fortunate to have spent the next eight years working with Steve and the wonderful staff and board of the CRC. I have and will continue to apply the skills that Steve taught me. Steve mentored so many of us...from so many diverse backgrounds and communities.

My heart goes out to Cindy.

Even though he is no longer with us in this world, it is no surprise that Steve Graham -- even in death -- continues to inspire us.

- Kenzo Kawanabe, Davis Graham & Stubbs LLP, Denver 1/5/2007

I was fortunate to know Steve as both a personal friend and a professional colleague. Professionally, what stands out for me was his willingness to make significant commitments of his time and energy to benefit my organization, CHARG Resource Center. He clearly believed in our mission, but beyond that, he did not hesitate to be generous with his time, meeting with our development committee, facilitating a number of board retreats (often without asking to be paid), and hosting a fundraising gathering for CHARG at his home, where I showed slides of a recent trip to China. Steve and Cindy were totally gracious hosts and provided much of the food and beverages themselves.

Another thing that stands out for me in my personal friendship with Steve was once discussing with him his then-recent bout with cancer. He was very philosophical about having had to face the possibility of his own death, and said he reflected back on his life to that point and thought, if this was his time, it would be OK and he would pass on with no regrets about how he had chosen to spend his life. As it turned out, he had several additional years to be the wonderful person he was - all too short for those of us left behind, but nevertheless, as I know Steve himself would have said, a full life lived without regret.

- David D. Burgess, CHARG Resource Center, Denver 1/5/2007

I am a very good friend of Steve's wonderful wife, Cindy, who I've known since our mid-20s. I first met Steve in the early 1980s, when they were living in the foothills (a wonderful place) outside of Denver. Steve's politics and mine are very similar, and, in fact, we had some other friends in common.

I know that Cindy and Steve had a wonderful marriage. Steve was always very kind to me when I visited them in Denver (sadly, I have not been to Denver or seen them in over 7 years, although Cindy and I stay in touch). I always enjoyed our political and other discussions.

I am so shocked and saddened to hear about this loss for many reasons. It sometimes does seem that the good do die young. As a public law librarian I definitely value and appreciate Steve's very fine contribution to our society via his work with the nonprofit sector and previously with the American Friends.

My thoughts go out to Cindy and Steve's family at this time. With deepest sympathy.

- Jean Willis, Sacramento County Public Law Library, San Diego, CA 1/5/2007

Our agency was downsized - meaning, the governor eliminated the agency and we all lost our jobs. That very day, Steve contacted me and said that he wanted to put me on contract to CRC so that there could be continuity of services to rural Colorado. I will never forget the incredible debt I have to his generosity of spirit, and will do pretty much anything for CRC to say, "thank you."

- Maryo Ewell, , Gunnison, CO 1/4/2007

A Tribute to Steve Graham

Steve Graham was one of those rare persons who inspired others by the force of his strong character, warm heart, whipsmart intellect, deeply held convictions, and steadfast ideals. He was a bright, shining role model for many of us, at a time when there were few individuals, young or old, local or national, we could look up to and emulate. All through the late sixties and early seventies, and for many years after, Steve’s careful judgment, wise counsel and moral authority was both admired and sought after. Steve will be deeply missed, sadly mourned and long remembered with great fondness, love and affection.

Steve was a few years older than myself. When I met Steve in St. Louis, I was a very naïve, unenlightened seventeen-year-old college freshman that knew no one. Steve was one of the first Washington University students I reached out to. My mother and Steve’s mother were friends. I was urged to contact Steve by both of them. Steve graciously welcomed me to the community with his usual good cheer, generosity and graciousness. Steve guided me to reading material and courses I would have missed and overlooked, introduced me to his wide circle of friends, and instilled in me a life-long questioning of authority and the status quo. Steve later became a mentor, an adviser, and a leader for many of us, someone we always looked to for advice and guidance.

Many of us also know that Steve Graham worked tirelessly and selflessly for the good of others for his entire working life

- Phillip Koch, Friend, Chicago, IL 1/4/2007

Steve was a great friend and teacher to all of us. I am saddened by this loss.

He always was willing to step up and take the lead.

During the summer of 1968, I trained as a draft counselor in Cleveland. When I came back to Washington University, I discovered that Steve was leading a Draft Counseling Center there. I worked with him on that project, as well as many others.

He was older than most of us, and had more experience. He lived a principled life, and we could tell he stuck to his principles. He spoke softly but strongly. After knowing him for a while I could see the foundation of his principles and could see it was well thought out and consistent. That was at
a time I was trying to develop the basis of my beliefs and actions. Steve had a huge influence on my development. I could always count on Steve to do what was needed and right.

Steve chaired the legal defense committee that helped people like me who faced prosecution. He continued to work after many others had either left WU or had gone in different directions. He continued
the hard work behind the scenes, after the demonstrations were over. And throughout the rest of his life, he lived his life in the same way.

- Howard Mechanic, Friend, Prescott, AZ 1/4/2007

Steve's death was so sudden and such a surprise. He seemed healthy, full of life and interesting experiences. I had a hard time remembering he'd been through treatments for non-Hodgkins lymphoma years ago. (I shaved my head in solidarity when he temporarily lost his hair, but I was already so bald that Steve was about the only one who noticed.) Even the heart arrhythmia that Steve learned he had this year seemed like a mild inconvenience, not a real threat or reason to do less or change any plans.

I knew Steve first, and thought of him always, as a political activist. He moved to Colorado to take a job working with me in the Denver office of the American Friends Service Committee. Our job was to end war, abolish capital punishment, end the apartheid system in South Africa, resist the military draft registration, and stop U.S. intervention in Central America. We failed miserably, but it was a great job to have. Ending apartheid was our one big success, and that was the area Steve worked the most on. He graciously shared the credit with Nelson Mandela.

Steve was good at being a peace and justice organizer. There were lots of things about war and injustice that made him burn, but he was not an angry person. He was creative and fun-loving, and good at getting people involved and working together. During the 1980s when the Reagan administration was busy trying to stomp out every freedom movement in Central America, we had a Denver chapter of a group called the Pledge of Resistance. We were frustrated at the limited and biased coverage the wars of Central America were getting in the media. After considerable effort at letters to the editor and monitoring the failures of the press, we organized a guerilla force in Denver that went out in the wee hours one morning armed with quarters. We used those quarters to open hundreds of newspaper boxes, and wrapped the Rocky Mountain News with a new front page offering what we thought was a humorous and educational set of headlines and stories about people's struggles in El Salvador and Guatemala. Then we all met for breakfast, admiring our handiwork in the window of each blue Rocky box we passed. The News was not amused. They threatened criminal prosecutions, but of course we hadn't broken into any boxes and hadn't stolen any papers.

I always admired the effortless and natural way Steve shifted from anti-war activist to his work with non-profit organizations and the Community Resource Center. It wasn't really that different, still working for social change. He used a lot of the same skills, training groups in how to work together effectively, thinking strategically, listening to people and helping them make a plan to get something done. But the group of people he was talking to gradually changed. At some point it dawned on me how big an impact he was having, on non-profit organizations but also on the whole state. It seemed like wherever you went or whatever you were talking about he knew someone, had been involved in some meetings, had worked with a group or given a training. It wasn't so much that he knew important people, or wealthy people, or powerful leaders. It was more about how he connected with people, and especially with people who wanted to make a difference, wanted to make the world a better and fairer place, a kinder place.

Steve had a lot of interests, and knew about a lot of things. Good music. Art. Baseball, and especially the Cubbies. How to set up a 501(c)(3). He was a good listener. He was someone people listened to. He was a devoted husband. He was a very good friend.

- Eric Wright, Cross Community Coalition, Denver 1/4/2007

I was always inspired by Steve's affection for the Chicago Cubs, who, for each year of his entire life, let him down! That showed what a loyal guy Steve truly was!!

Steve was one of the first people who inspired and convinced me to have confidence in the long term viability of the Family Resource Center Association. Steve served on the FRCA Board of Directors in the first few years that I served as the organization's executive director. Even after his term on the Board was completed, Steve remained unflinchingly loyal to the family resource centers, always open to and suggestive of ideas about how to attract more funding, and how to become a true state-wide voice on issues and policies affecting vulnerable families and children in Colorado.

He was a true and loyal friend of mine. We shared a deep love for baseball and, and we always enjoyed playing hooky a time or two during the season and head to Coors Field for a lovely afternoon of watching Rockies futility on the diamond.

We also occasionally played a few rounds of golf together - ah, more sharing of futility. Actually, Steve was a very good golfer, and won the Family Resource Centers golf tournament in 2004!

The Colorado nonprofit community has lost a true and loyal friend. We all miss him terribly.

- Bill Michaels, Family Resource Center Association, Denver 1/4/2007

I had the pleasure of working with Steve in different capacities through the past several years. Steve was a champion. The ripple effects of his work, dedication, compassion and mentorship will continue in many lives and many organizations across the state and will continue to help improve the human condition. There can be no greater legacy. God blessed us with Steve and I pray that God blesses Steve's family as he keeps Steve in his loving care.

- Ida Rhodes, Catholic Charities, Pueblo 1/4/2007

Many years ago I worked with Steve when he was at the AFSC office and I worked at the Archdiocese of Denver in social ministry. I have very fond memories of Steve, his commitment to justice and peace and his gentle way of mentoring others. My thoughts and prayers are with his family, friends and many colleagues. Steve was a genuine leader in this community.
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- Peg Maloney, RSM, Regis University - Ministry office, Denver  1/4/2007

Several years ago we had several fledgling early childhood parenting programs housed at different agencies in Pueblo and we were struggling to figure out how we could work together more effectively. We turned to Steve and with a technical assistance grant from the Packard Foundation he worked with us during the course of several months, helping us get to the fundamental values and mechanics of real collaboration. It wasn't always easy but Steve made it safe and doable. Today those programs are thriving, the collaborations remain strong and over the years he worked with us on numerous other projects. I think what I will always hold dear about Steve, in addition to his easy going manner, good humor and intelligent commitment to the issues of the day was that he was a visionary who understood that what happens in Colorado's rural and isolated communities are important to the lifeblood of this state and he did whatever he could to make his vision a reality. Godspeed Steve.

- Jayne Mazur, Catholic Charities, Diocese of Pueblo, Pueblo 1/3/2007

A few years ago I was the first executive director for an affordable housing advocacy organization. The agency had a lot of growing pains and I was extremely idealistic and somewhat naive about how societal change is affected. Steve was a great colleague, friend and mentor to me. His insights about nonprofit development and social change really helped me to gain perspective and recognize that while I might not be changing the world all at once, I was making an important difference. He helped me think through fundraising strategies, a board development plan, but most importantly asked me hard questions about my own values and ideals. I have always had the utmost respect for Steve and CRC and will miss him dearly.

- mindy klowden, currently working for jefferson center for mental health , I live in Denver 1/3/2007

I cannot begin to express all the ways Steve Graham has touched my life personally and professionally. He was one of those rare individuals who spoke highly of many and seemed to genuinely delight and benefit from the success of others.

Steve’s integrity was palpable. He “talked the talk and walked the walk”. My guess is this did not always make him popular, but it did make him respected. Steve did not seem to change perspective or opinions based on his audience. The face you saw was the same face he showed others. I remember attending an ethics workshop with him several years ago. A touchy discussion about foundation board compensation was initiated during the forum. Steve did not hesitate to advocate for the non-profits he believed in and voiced his belief that foundations should play by the same rules expected of the non-profits we support. He did not grandstand or preach he simply stated what he believed was self evident. There were certainly many reasons why it might have been more expedient for Steve to have said nothing that day. The response to Steve was you get what you pay for. In that moment I learned a valuable lesson on multiple levels from Steve. You don’t just get what you pay for, you get what is given. Steve gave a lot and made a big difference. The world is truly a lesser place without him.

I am so grateful to have had Steve’s input and perspective for the time I had it. He reminded me recently, when I was expressing my litany of concerns about the practice of philanthropy, how much of a privilege it is to do this work (he kept me honest and accountable too). I hope a little of Steve has rubbed off on me and I will use the privilege afforded to me by my position to make a difference and act with an integrity that promotes the strengths of others. Thank you, Steve.

- Cathy Lopez Wessell, Bright Mountain Foundation, Denver 1/3/2007

I first met Steve through working on Philanthropy Days committees. He had a wonderful grasp of the need statewide, not just the front range. He also had a wonderful way of making everyone feel valued. We will miss his large, warm heart.

- Jo Rosenquist, Western Colorado AIDS Project, Grand Junction, CO 1/3/2007

I have not known Steve Graham for long, we met recently over the past year at ENII meetings. Steve left a profound impression with me in that he demonstrated his committment to service and community. He will be greatly missed.

- Karen Terry, MSW, LCSW, Aurora Mental Health Center, Aurora Colorado 1/3/2007

Steve has had and will continue to have a great impact on my life. His passion for social justice and serving the disenfranchised was contagious. From our first conversation during a workshop on grant writing in 1999 to the CRC Leadership Program, and beyond, he mentored me in every contact.

As the new executive director of Karis Community he took me under his wing. He introduced me to a host of people in the community with a similar dedication to making a difference. His generosity in sharing his time and wisdom helped shape and encourage my vision for the mission of Karis Community.

I will be forever grateful for my mentor and friend, Steve Graham. I will remember his wisdom, wit, encouragement and support. And above all I will take with me his compassion and commitment to serving others.

Steve lived out Ghandi's message, "You must be the change you wish to see in the world."

You are greatly missed Steve.

- E.J. Barklage, Karis Community, Denver 1/2/2007

Steve was a vital part of Community Shares of Colorado particularly back in the day when it was called the Alternative Fund. His leadership skills, his analytical ability and his willingness to share his vast knowledge helped make the organization what it is today. Steve was always concerned with the well-being of the non-profit community and of organizations who worked to improve the quality of life of individuals - thank you, Steve for always caring and for making it easier for us to serve.

- Florence Hernandez-Ramos, KUVO, Denver 1/2/2007

Steve was an amazing thinker, innovator, organizer, communicator, collaborator and friend. He had an uncanny ability to see straight to the heart of even the most contentious of issues, and convey the issue’s essence in such a savvy manner that even those who didn't agree could still respect the place from which his perspective had come. I miss him.

- Dan Mooney, , Cortez, CO 1/2/2007